“Everything that I do/think and feel must be done with intensity, this is the one thing that allows me to experience highs and lows like no other..And time and awareness has proven, that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Never allow anybody to call you ‘too sensitive’, nor ‘too friendly’. The world needs more people sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, the world needs more people who are ‘too friendly’, particularly capitalistic, urban areas where people thrive on apathy and currency alone. Existing in a world shaped to be brutal, hard, and border line sociopathic, whilst you are the complete alternative can be utterly draining, frustrating, and not to mention, immensely lonely..Yet still you may thrive. You may thrive only when you discover that there is nothing wrong with you. You do not need to ‘toughen up’, you do not need to suppress nor ignore your feelings in favour of appearing aloof. There is nothing attractive about a person who does not care, or behaves as if they do not. Our current society is possessed with too many ills to mention, and you sweet deary, are not one of them.”
Dealing with passive aggression as an empath, and activating your throat chakra.
“Self confidence, self assurance, and self assertiveness, are now the vibrations that we are trying to move toward, and attract. Especially those of us who were taught to be inexpressive, and have kept our throat chakras inactive for the longest while. The more timid, more shy ones of us, who have held on to our words, until they have bubbled over in our tongues, and disappeared forever. Well now, how about we retrieve them? My top three tips for activating thy throat chakra.
1. Now if you are anything like me, and you grew up very quiet, and quite shy, you may now find that as an adult, this impacts you in disadvantaged ways, particularly in regards to opportunities in the work place, and generalised social environments. When we cannot speak our truth, or speak up for ourselves, we become easy prey to those souls who love nothing more than to throw their energy around, suffocating others, whilst giving themselves an energetic boost. Yes, we have all experienced the displeasure of a loud co-worker, a confrontational acquaintance, or the classic, ‘bully’ persona, (a person who specifically seeks out hyper sensitives in order to poke fun at their eccentricities). And the one who has not activated their throat chakra will.. (Pause for dramatic and horrific effect), LET THEM GET AWAY WITH IT! now this is the worst thing that we can ever do, because they then go on to pursue those very same negative energies with others just like us! It is like a chain of hyper abuse! It is important to voice yours opinion and discomfort with things always.
2. When something comes to your mind, just say it. I do not care what it is, no matter how ridiculous, or random, spit it out. This will train your mind to act in accordance with your throat chakra, and not be so hesitant in revealing your inner goings on. At one point or another, due to your experiences, you told yourself that your thoughts were better left kept to yourself. That they would not be welcomed, appreciated or met with love, and (most importantly), that you wouldn’t either. It is time to recognise how valued, and precious your contributions are. Allow your voice to ring true.
3. Practice humming, or even talking to yourself whilst you are alone. Tell yourself the truth, what you really think of yourself. What you like about yourself, and what you think you can improve on. This will help you to be able to tell others where you feel that they may be coming short, should they not respect your self love boundaries. Follow the same formula you have practiced with yourself. Tell them things that you appreciate them for, and what you admire in them, then proceed to tell them what they have done that causes you concern. This way, if they do not respond to the news well, you do not internalise it as something you have done wrong, as you are aware that you did not approach the situation is a cynical or vindictive manner. From practicing this method on yourself, you will also see that it is pretty harmless, and offers space for self improvement.”
Now, dealing with passive aggression is quite different, and more difficult to deal with than outer forms of expression, but not to worry, the hyper sensitive/empath can tackle this too! We all know the type to respond to you taking offence to their extremely offensive comments with, ‘Omg! Calm down! I was only joking! It was only a question’ etc. smart ploy, but not smart enough for the empath who sees, feels, and KNOWS everything. Upon realising that you are dealing with this type of soul, it is important to create space, as their energies will feel very uncomfortable to the empath. However, in the moments they catch us off guard, we should immediately voice or express our discontent. If we cannot find the words to do so at the time, then it is still important for us to forgive our judgement in that moment. Physically creating distance between us and the soul, and re-directing our focus by stepping away from them could also create space for us to cultivate our own energy in that moment, instead of marinating in their own. Later, when the empath feels more safe, and more courage is built, they may send the person a message, (not of aggression), but informing them that the interaction earlier made the empath feel uncomfortable, and that the empath would prefer if a similar incident could be avoided next time. The most important thing is voicing those concerns, whatever form this may take!
Blessed be, Cindy ~
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