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A ‘false twin flame’ is a specific type of karmic attachment that leaves a pretty lasting impression, and a lasting impact, that is, until the actual twin flame makes themselves apparent. And sometimes, even then, the dent left by the false twin may be so prevalent, that it too affects the twin flame union, and the ways in which the twin in question perceives love, and perceives members of the opposite sex, (opposing energy).
Just like not everybody has a twin flame, not everybody has a false twin. The two sort of go hand in hand, and you cannot have one without the other.
Another name, possibly a more suited one for this type of karmic attachment, is a ‘near twin’, or as some people like to call them, ‘a twin flame prep’.
The energies of this false twin will mirror the arrival of your actual twin so much, that until you awaken to the harsh realities of their truth, you will truly be convinced that this person is your actual twin, somebody fated to you, and somebody with whom you will share the remainder of your life.
When my own false twin materialised in my life, we had so many things in common. We were both ‘artists’, i wrote poetry, he wrote songs. I was a lone wolf. He apparently too was a lone wolf. I believe in the paranormal. He believed in the paranormal. He would even say things that i pictured a partner would say to me, should an angel send them to me.
Enabling one to believe that this union, and their arrival is pre determined, and some how, ‘magical’, is also a common, and tactile trait of the false twin. On some level, it is as if they are aware that the true twin holds a magical, intense realm within them. A realm that wants to believe in true love, and divine attraction, and endless wondrous possibilities.
And that much is true. No matter how jaded, sullen, or ‘meek’, the true twin may be when they come across their false twin, they will still always possess this unspoken, underling light, that the false twin too sees, and will continue to exploit, and ‘attach to’, for the betterment of their own personal energies.
It is very important to remember that no matter how flamboyant, successful, skilled, lavish, or coveted the false twin makes themselves appear to be, they are seriously suffering from a case of a lack of light, trapped in the shadows, a powerless victim of their own karma, and this is why they just cannot WAIT to attach to the actual twin.
This type of ‘relationship’ truly mirrors an abusive relationship, (mentally, energetically, emotionally, psychologically, and even sometimes physically), so for the purposes of this reason alone, i will take a psychological look, including actual psychological theories, on how this union typically manifests, and what keeps the scales so deeply imbalanced.
Abuse begins in childhood, and often, well into adulthood – Cindy Anneh-bu
Attachment theory in psychology is the theory that we all hold specific attachment models, defined by our earliest care givers, our responses to them, their level of affection, care towards us, and our ability to navigate in the world dependent upon their teachings.
Originally, this theory was adopted as a way of understanding the way that children respond to their care givers, and vice versa, but it was later extended to encompass the way in which we perceive, and respond to the world in adulthood relationships, romantic, and platonic alike.
The theory stands that, dependent on the treatment, and the experiences of an individual during childhood, they are set upon a path to either engage in healthy, and strengthened societal bonds, whilst keeping a positive outlook on themselves, or, they will alternatively, plummet into a world of self doubt, self defeat, irregularity of consistent relationships, and a bruised, (skewed) perception of themselves.
In all false twin flame transactions, it is vital to remember that the only reason that both souls come across one another, and find themselves in the same time space, is because their experiences, and their energetic imprints mirror one another, on a very major, and core level.
It is very easy for us to place all of the blame, and all of the responsibility upon our false twin, and how ‘evil’, ‘twisted’, or ‘dark’ they are, but this is once more feeding into the notion of polarity, and separation consciousness.
The truth is, the reason that the false twin was able to sense the calls of the actual twin, and vibrate towards them, is because they both hold a core wounding from childhood, this just HAPPENED to manifest in separate ways.
Whilst the true twin suffers from, ‘anxious/pre-occupied attachment style’, the false twin flame likely suffers from, ‘dismissive avoidant attachment style’.
The common theme for both of these models, is a parent, or parent(s), who rejected the emotional needs of the child in infancy, and were somehow emotionally unresponsive, or unavailable. Whilst, these patterns taught the false twin to become solely dependent, and reliant upon themselves, and suppress the need for emotional closeness, these same patterns caused the true twin to become overly dependent upon achieving this closeness, and receiving love, and gratification from others.
Both wounded. In this way, they represent two sides of the same coin, two sides of a mirror, and there is no true separation between the false twin, and the true twin victim, the classic model of the, ’empath, and the narcissist’.
This is the reason that this relationship is absolutely clouded in karma, and karmic transaction.
Now, karma is somewhat of a complicated theory to explain. How does it attach itself to us? How does it continuously manifest? And how is it that it may be carried on from life time to life time, imprinting itself on the soul continuously?
Well, karma is not so much the conscious actions committed by an individual, so much as it is the unconscious actions committed by the individual. It is because of this unconsciousness, that the individual continuously draws the same level of karma, and karmic experiences toward themselves.
Long before my twin flame encounter, and even further before my false twin flame, i would find myself rigged with questions such as,’Why is this always happening to me?’, ‘What did i do to deserve this?’, and ‘am i cursed?’.
Karma begins working on our souls, and our soul groups, long before we ever put a foot wrong in the physical realm. In African theology, the ancestors, or deceased family members long passed, may be reborn as the children of those born after them. There is this belief in an endless cycle, remaining within the same soul group in essence, and continuing to be born, (renewed), into the family gene pool, possibly in hopes of getting things ‘right’, this time, or learning.
This means that a parent who abused their child and treated them badly, may be born to the child, of that child, or the child of that child, and have to endure the traumatic effects of a broken child, actually broken in a chain of their own doings, in a previous life. This is essentially the model of how karma works.
The misdeeds of that soul, come back to reveal themselves to them, and allow them to understand the harmful, and debilitating effects of their actions, in a former existence.
Karmic imprints are picked up first in childhood, they are downloaded unto the child from the behaviour models, and actions of the parent, and this is why you will find that so many empaths come from families with histories of trauma, it is their duty upon incarnating to attempt to clear this karma, and to use their invaded energetic walls for the good of helping, and understanding others.
When it comes to twin flames, they hold a specific duty, not only of transmuting the energies of their own karma, but clearing their family line. In clearing their own energies, and acknowledging their karmic woundings, and healing them, they indirectly break the chain of karma, ‘curse of events’, by refusing to pass these traits, and karmic models onto their own children.
The twin flames will be heavily burdened as it seems, with the karmic imprints of their entire generational line, including much of the templates associated with their respective genders, (e.g masculine, or feminine).
The karmic energy that the false twin accumulates is of a darker nature, of the shadow side, but this only reflects the shadow side that already exists within the true twin flame victim. It is very easy to think that the true twin flame victim is a perfectly innocent, and an impartial participant, but in actuality, one will find that many of the traits associated with the false twin flame, including narcissism are also apparent within the twin flame victim.
The overall point of this encounter with their false twin flame, is to dig up alot of their unresolved wounded templates, (karma), and damaging behavioural patterns. These pretty much bubble to the surface, so that when the true twin comes along, these energies are almost ready to pour out, almost ready to be released, culminating in a final healing.
Alot of the time, when the true twin flame finally does arrive, the twin flame involved in the false twin scenario, would have suffered so much emotional abuse at the hands of their false twin, that they are almost numb, or rather, emotionally advanced toward their own suffering. Although unknown to them at the time, this prepares them for the intense separation (death/rebirth) period, that they will inevitably experience upon colliding with their true twin. This is why many refer to this type of karmic attachment as the, ‘twin prep’.
It is the preparation of emotional fluctuation, and intense soul level healing that makes this type of relationship stand apart from the typical karmic, or soul mate relationships.
This type of connection truly does tear you open, in ways that appear unbearable, but every time that we are torn open, we risk unveiling our own light, and allowing it to shine through us.
The false twin flame will indirectly try to get you to love yourself, by loving, or appreciating you so little, that your only chance of survival, is in waking up, wisening up, and realising that you are worth far more than their short comings, and inability to be secure for you.
Patience, resilience, observance, and independence, are all lessons that the true twin flame victim will inevitably learn upon making it out on the other side. There is usually a distance to this type of relationship that means, unless they find something to do that nourishes them, or enables them to cope with the time apart, they will probably find themselves going crazy, and obsessing over their need for attention, and recognition, that momentarily, or hardly ever comes.
Alot of twin flame victims will, and should take this time to delve deeply into spirituality, the philosophical nature of life, or even so much as a triggering, for them to make sense of who they are, who their false twin is, and why this is happening to them.
This is pretty much like an alarm clock situation, an awakening call, and should not be viewed so negatively as such, even though it does tend to cause such traumatic and weighted emotions.
Once healing has begun, it is also important to attempt to sever the karmic ties that keep one bonded in trauma with their false twin. The level of abuse or manipulation will rarely ever cease unless the twin flame victim stands up for themselves, and walks away from the entanglement. This is all a game of ego, and also gratification for the false twin, so they will see no need to cut ties with the twin flame victim. Despite their genuine lack of authentic love, and consideration for them, the twin flame victim happily feeds the ego, and the bruised inner child of the false twin, that just wants to be loved. So, unless the twin flame victim decides it is time for this cruel show to be over, it is very likely that it will cease – to be over.
One should also be cautious of reverting, and seeking out their false twin during the separation phase with their actual twin flame. In their confusion, or desperation, they may believe that they have been mistaken in who their actual twin is, and needing care, and attention again, (anxious preoccupied attachment style), may seek out their false twin to become caught up in the same game of cat and mouse.
Lastly, this type of relationship is all about the mirror – the soul mirror – the shadow mirror. Whilst the true twin flame relationship highlights and mirrors all that exists within our soul, the false twin relationship mirrors all of the darkness that exists within our soul, and does not inspire us for greatness in the same way.
This is much the case of the sun, and the moon, without the light of the sun, the moon would not cast such a shadow. However, it is this same shadow that provides light, within the darkness.
To book a personalised reading, advice/guidance session with me, email me via the email provided below. I offer twin flame readings, in which i calculate the life path numbers of both individuals, to check for divine numbers, and synchronicity, before drawing a 10 tarot question selection. I am also able to provide insight on false twin flame relationships, and advice, and insight about breaking free of them.
© Seek Cindy 2016