The polarity of women’s sexuality part 1.
The more somebody suffers from low self esteem, the more likely they are to be involved in hyper sexuality + self inflicted sexual abuse. This is highly in relation to the theory of boundaries & our ability to sustain them after they have been penetrated without our permission.
More than likely that person that you refer to as a, ‘hoe’, has experienced some type of sexual abuse or sexual malfunction during their childhood. This experience(s), usually occurs before puberty, may spurn off premature puberty, and permanently alters the way in which the individual views intimacy, trust, sexual health, and relationships. If this act was committed by a trusted member of the family, or family dynamic, the individual may grow to have difficulty with establishing sexual boundaries, having been taught by their experiences to believe, that there truly are none.
The sexualisation of a child from such a young age, also stirs impulsive sexual desires, and behaviours in them that they may be desperate to act out, in attempts to seek the same ‘euphoria’ associated with the feeling of sexual arousal. As they are aware by the secrecy of their abuse that the actions that they are involved in are wrong, they may also develop unhealthy attitudes to sexual
Behaviours, believing largely, that anything goes.
As low self esteem is a trait also associated with sexual abuse, it is very likely, if not a certainty, that they will go on to have a complex relationship with sex, where their former abuse continues to re-surface, well into adulthood.
You see why, ‘slut shaming’ doesn’t work? No amount of shame can account for that which people already carry..
The intention that she holds in the space provided after sexual Union will reproduce itself. Whether good, or bad, it shall multiply.
Sex should strengthen the bond… If it does not? Something is wrong.. the energetic resonance is wrong.
If he falls asleep right after coitus, you have drained him of his super powers, and you are now the super hero – use it wisely.
He returns to being a mere mortal, while you…. Why, you? You can have anything that you want. That’s what religion won’t tell women.. You have to rub the back of his head/neck so he doesn’t feel bad about being a mortal again.. Be nice to him, but you can laugh in your head…
Now, you are a fucking God.
Religion will not clue you up on this.. Why? Well because the basis of patriarchal strength rooted in abrahamic religions relies upon the superiority of men, and not this type of exchange of power.
This type of sexuality based upon a woman’s strength is simply counter productive to the narrative of male ownership and dictatorship.. Rather, they should shame the woman from finding this knowledge, from awakening the alchemical processes within…
A woman’s sexuality, through self discovery and expression, is her spiritual breakthrough.
And in the opposite breath, a woman’s sexuality, through abuse, or affliction, is her greatest bondage.
This is the polarity of feminine sexuality, of womb consciousness.
However, once damaged, this chain of causation as mentioned in part 1, is highly reversible..
As fluid as women are, we can take on many forms, many shapes, and no shape of ours is permanent.
– Cindy Anneh-bu
© Seek Cindy 2016