What is the ‘good wife syndrome’?

What is ‘the good wife syndrome’, & how has it led to the betrayal of TRUE feminine freedom? (And I’m not talking about proverbs!)

’ ‘The good wife’ is a gown, that every feminine has the potentiality of downloading unto herself, through the Akashic record/memory of womanhood.

It is like becoming possessed by a spirit. One that causes a woman to selflessly give, & perform, & produce & provide.

It is the old fashioned/traditional, even patriarchal definition, of the ‘good wife’, the fixer, the pleaser, the one who gives, & gives, because then it means that she can be considered, ‘a good woman’.

The ‘good wife’ is a template, or a narrative shall I say that every woman//femme is exposed to/capable of adopting.

This is the stereotypical image of a good woman, in patriarchal, male dominated & lead societies, where women are mostly subservient, & seen, but not heard.

Narcissistic men, or men with baby boy syndrome are like flies to honey for women who become possessed by this template, or actively seek to manipulate it in women who may have father, or even mother issues.

At the subconscious root of each woman playing the role of the ‘good wife’, is the need to be needed. And the need to be loved through the dependency of this needing.

For this reason, ‘the good wife’ syndrome tends to affect mostly women who are looking for love from men who are psychologically unable to provide it.

The more that they resist the affections of the woman embodying ‘the good wife’, the more that she becomes embezzled in this energy. The more that she cleans, the more that she fusses, the more that she serves. All in hopes that he will recognise how ‘good’ she is being, how worthy of ‘wifehood’ that she is.

Frankly speaking, ‘the good wife syndrome’ is all about women receiving cookies, or a pat on the back for making a man the centre of their worlds.

The good wife syndrome aka pick me spell will have a woman giving up everything that she loves, everything that makes her who she is & everything that marks her spark, just to please her man and ESPECIALLY to prove to him that he has nothing to be threatened about when it comes to her.

Because the good wife syndrome tends to be most attractive to men who suffer with severe insecurity issues (baby boy syndrome), the more that the good wife seeks to dim herself down & slowly wither into thin air, the more her masculine will require more depths of her to show her devotion. His insecurity can never be quenched & thus neither can her slow demise.

Because the good wife is so ‘good’ & not like other women, she begins slowly to separate herself from the ‘influence’ of her friends who expose her to the side of herself that once lived – the fearless spirit, the artsy demon, because what they stand to represent, is the fact that apart of her will never change. Instead, she changes everything around her to convince herself that her internal desires have been lost.

They never do become lost. Though she does.

Narcissistic men know about this desire in many women, & play on it. Even though they naturally display tendencies of being incapable, & child like, they are willing to play up to this, as they know that it gives the woman a role to serve.

– SeekCindy ©


Please check this episode for reference. All works & words were inspired by me, however this episode is an accurate depiction of the process mentioned.

– To schedule a session with me to discuss any of the issues mentioned here, email cindyanneh-bu@hotmail.co.uk


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