Empaths, family dysfunction, and healing the karmic line.

                        
One of the factors about being an empath, that most do not realise, is just how connected we are to our ancestral, and family lines.

There was an old African saying that my parents would always repeat to me, though I never took it seriously until I began my own journey into spirituality. It went a little something like this, ‘You are your ancestors. You come back as them, over, and over again’.

I did not understand what this meant at the time. Probably because I didn’t try to, probably because I wasn’t ready to. How could we be our ancestors? Wouldn’t we remember if we were?

Well, what exactly is memory? Memory that you perceive to be images received in your mind? Well, how about karmic memory?

Karmic memory, may not be so easy to identify as something that has occurred for you before, but you will see it manifest, time and time again, in your relationships with others, and in the things that ‘trigger’ you.

Much like [Carl Jung’s] theory, about the collective consciousness, this African belief pertains to the idea that, whatever is not lived through, or completed within our ancestors, will once again manifest through us, and the rest of our generational lines, until it meets resolution.


For empaths embodying the divine feminine, templates such as abandonment, and mistreatment are cemented, from centuries of being left by their men for wars, and raped, and sodomised, as they saw the rise of patriarchy, and the destruction of the divine feminine. This will usually be passed onto the female empath, through her mother, possibly as a direct experience, or, as a distant flicker. It could manifest as anxiety, depression, hypersensitivity to men, (through love, or fear), and even a desire to re-integrate the divine feminine, in hopes to reconcile what was once lost. As this is passed on directly from mother, to daughter, (from the womb initially), there is likely to be karmic issues surrounding the relationship between the two.

 
For empaths embodying the energies of the divine masculine, the trauma in the family will be directly related towards issues of masculinity, where men’s worth was once tied around their ability to show a significant amount of aggression, defense and outward action. Of course, the divine masculine who identifies as an empath, will struggle greatly with this, as they are predisposed to feminine energies (because of their hyper sensitivity to energy). They are likely to have fathers who are emotionally unattached, unavailable, or not involved in/with their lives.. This could manifest as sociopathy, for the ones who reject to allow their empathy to guide them, or, alternatively, this may manifest as nervousness, and timidity, as this individual carries the stigma of feeling de-masculinised. This is his internal struggle to re-integrate the divine feminine also.

Both the masculine, and feminine templates are stored within the empath for ultimate release. Empaths experience numerous deaths, and rebirths upon their shamanic journeys, and all of these allow them to successfully purge energies stored within their karmic, and generational lines. They will also continuously run into relationships that challenge and trigger their karmic ancestry.

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Twin flames, soul mates, and karmic attachments, the novelty of forbidden love, and facing the shadow – A Charmed special. 

  
Phoebe and Cole.

If you are not familiar with charmed, and are interested in spirituality, I seriously advise you to check out a season or two. It explains many spiritual principles, both directly, and through metaphor. 

Long story short, it is based around the lives of three sisters witches, who came into their powers following a prophecy made by their ancestor, that they would be the most powerful force of good in the world – of all time, countering the active forces of evil that exist in the world – light workers much?

Now, Phoebe, the youngest sister, (for the first few seasons, played fantastically by Alyssa Milano), is clairvoyant, and later becomes clairsentient, (an empath). There have been a few incidences over the years in the show that have touched on her being less powerful magically than the others, as her power was the only passive power, though her intensified intuition, and ability to think, and see outside the lines saved all sisters more times than their combined powers put together. Never undestimate extra sensory perception!

It is my strong belief that it is the path of all healers to experience both sides of the spectrum of existence, both good, and evil, for them to understand how they may cultivate balance. And this is exactly the situation that took place with the characters phoebe, and Cole.

  
Cole, (Phoebe’s lover in the show), was a demon. Despite this, the love that they had for one another, penetrated any boarders, or limitations that they may have faced, including the stigma of forbidden love, which is just the twin flame template. Not to mention the balancing of two opposing energies, igniting an alchemical reaction whereby BOTH are transformed. 

The course of their love found Cole spending some time running away, and avoiding phoebe, whilst trying to maintain his ‘evil’ status, and rid himself of his undying love for her. She however, during this time, determined to save their love, and believing that she could redeem her, continued to pursue him, until alas, his love for her was so powerful, he decided that he did want to change..

Why of course, it was the evil in Cole that attracted phoebe, as it played her a glimpse of her shadow self, and it was the good in Phoebe that captivated Cole, as the same goodness existed within him, whether the two chose to see so, or not.

There is something to be said about the healer, and their path in love. Healers, on the path to becoming a healer must sacrifice themselves on the path of love, they are often met with many soul mates are karmic attachments with whom they share tumultuous, or tragic relationships. This is usually because the healer at this point has many unresolved issues, and they need to see this played out in their relationships, if they are to ever gain insight into their mission on this planet.

To learn love, to know love, you have to experience it in its darkest form. You have to know what must be removed to keep it pure. To keep it, love.

The ultimate sacrifice.

  

After numerous attempts for Cole to redeem himself, and pursue the path of righteousness, the lure of wrong doing was too strong, and before long, he had returned to the underworld, and to his old ways, except this time.. He took Phoebe with him!

So dark and engulfing was his shadow self, that it dragged Phoebe down also, causing her to face her own darkness, through facing him. It had to be her own choice to return to the path of the light, and the truth, but this was never going to be an easy choice. If she was to return to the light, this would mean releasing her love, sacrificing him, for the cause of the greater good.
  
Only the strong, only the brave, can dwell in the depths of the darkest love, and rise once again, with a new found understanding, and appreciation for life, for love. In letting him go, she became..

So, was that the end of their love story?

‘I was dead before I met you, I was born the day you loved me, and my love for you will keep me alive, forever.’

Cole about Phoebe Halliwell
No, it was not. 

  
Cole makes a re-appearance twice, after him and phoebe’s love story has been diminished. Both times, his attempts were to restore her faith in love, to show her that love did not have to be all about love, loss, and fear, the way that it was with him. Such was his love for her, that even after he had no more to offer her, the only thing that he desired was her happiness, whether it included him, or not.

He finally found the peace that he had been looking for. His karma for his deeds was ending up in a vaccum sort of dimension, between time, and space, life, and death. One could say that this was a metaphor for having found balance.

Phoebe also went on to marry a Cupid, the epitome of love. All along her journey was one of love, as a healer, and an empath. She came to know that each love story had offered her something, each love story had prepared her for her last. 

  

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A letter, from a father, to his daughter; much, much later. 

  
“I give you the world,
On a silver platter,
And I say that there is not a thing in this universe that I treasure more than you.
But already, that isn’t fair.
And I have placed so much glory, and storage on your head, and I expect you to live up to these false ideals.
I watch you closely as you play,
So delicate,
That every time that you step a little out of line, or I fear that you may be bruised, I swarm in, and I take you, and I keep
You.
And in doing so, I teach you to be afraid of the world.
You watch the others, your brothers,
And you see how they play untamed,
Unscathed by the battles of the playground,
Free, to dance around and move as one with the breeze, grazing their knees, and rising to their feet with ease,
But when you try,
I ask you to come back, to stand by me.
And that is where you will always be.
If not by me, then in the grips of another man who will expect much the same of you, to keep away from the dangers of the world, to be frightened, to be his.

I tell you that you are precious,
And there is this thing between your legs that you must guard with all of your life,
And keep yours till somebody make you a wife,
And only then will you know glory,
I tell you only then, will your story be worthy.
With this same sacredness, I give you shame.
I pass you blame.
I tell you to cover your arms, more discretely, straighten out your skirt more nearly, and close your legs,
For men are watching,
I teach you to be prey.

And at the end of the day,

I return, and turn around,
And call you my precious little girl.

A letter, from a father, to his daughter.”

Cindy Anneh-bu

  

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Full moon in Gemini, November 25th, 2015, Balance, Sexuality, Ancestral issues, and awakening.

  

  
Today’s, full moon is absolutely packed to the rim with symbolism, and messages from the beyond!

You will most likely have witnessed this moon being represented by twins, or two pillars parralel to one another. This is because this full moon is all about the integration of two separate aspects, of polarity into our lives. 

For the past few days prior to this full moon, I have experienced what I can only describe as mental chaos, and calamity, as my mind has struggled to find calm, and comfort in its battle against my heart. The ultimate battle of my masculine and feminine components, as the divine feminine tries to weigh back in, and the divine masculine attempts to regain control! 

The strain was coming from two places. My minds reluctance to hold on to things that harbour no concrete, ‘logical’ evidence, and my hearts desire to cling to what it truly knows, including past memories.

The intensity from this full moon is derived from the minds desire to cling on to the painful memories, and experiences of the past, as the heart tries to set in stone the lessons that it has gathered. 

This theme will play out separately, and the divine feminine will release energies associated with the collective feminine energies, whilst the divine masculine is burdened with the release of the collective masculine energies. This release may come in the form of creative, and sexual energies, as this is a centre point of immense built up tensions.

  
What happens when the divine feminine awakens?

(Ancestral qualms).

When the divine feminine awakens, not only will she command energy from the centre point of womanhood, and empowerment, but she will also soon learn to combine them with her masculine energies. And this can take the form of her exercising power, where she may once have been timid, and inactive. 

The ancestral line of women is laced with issues of abandonment, neglect, and desert. This can be viewed archetypally with the religious depiction of Adam, Lillith, and Eve, whereby it is often suggested that Lillith is cast away, because she refuses to submit, and be subordinate to Adam. 

However, it should be noted that Lilith  actually chose to depart instead of submit, rather than being ‘cast away’. This is the perfect example of the divine feminine’ return, seeking balance, and not imbalance of the two energies, and willing to break moulds, and set templates.

Also, it is important to remember that Eve shared an open dialogue, and communication with the serpent, on the ‘tree of knowledge’, therefore illustrating a woman’s natural ability to commune with the primal, and healing forces of the earth, and hold ‘sacred knowledge’.

The divine feminine returns not to be punished for her knowing, but to relish, and celebrate her commitment to the divine.

Ancestral themes of being over powered, and silenced by men, and times of timidness, or reluctance to speak out will all become apparent in the minds eye, and this is all stored within the shadow self, awaiting full release. 

  
A supporting hand from the divine masculine.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking charge, and claiming power, as long as the power is self motivated, and not exercised with the intention of claiming ownership of the other. This is an important twin flame lesson to learn, balance, and not seeking complete dominion. 

The logical mind, and the intuitive mind are not enemies, and the notion of the two battling against one another still leaves us with the old paradigm, template of polarity, separation, and good vs evil. The utilisation of the two, is divine. 

During this time, the divine masculine will find himself battling his hearts ultimate desire to be heard, to be appreciated, to be engulfed. 

For so long, he has lived with the idea that to be in control, and to exercise masculinity is to almost be void of emotion, (aside from anger), and to generally display an heir of non-chalance. However, he is now awakening to the reality that this approach has rather been hurting him, than helping him, and has caused him to miss it of viral opportunities to experience the love that he has always dreamt of.

This may seem like a very fearful and uncertain time, but it is important to remember that things never seem as they are on the surface, particularly to those who are eternally connected to universal destinies. 

  
How do I handle this time of intense charge?

The divine masculine may feel as if he is losing control a little bit, almost as if he is spiralling into his own doom. But this is only because he refuses to let go. Spiritually, emotionally, and creatively. There is so much being expected of him, and knowing this, he rather chooses to cling to old, comfortable beliefs, and pursuits, and does not quite feel ready for the path of salvation.

He does not have to take big steps. He can simply begin by letting go. Letting go of the thoughts of what he ‘thinks’ that he should be.

The divine feminine may find herself wondering such things as, will I ever find love? Will I always be abandoned in love? Am I even good enough for love?

If only she were to look deep within her hearts truth, and see that love is what she is, not what she must obtain. If only she may rid herself of the externally imprinted beliefs that she is anything but sacred, and fully in control of her destiny, then she will awaken to not only her full healing capacity, but her ever flowing portal of internal wisdom. This will set her peace.
Blessed be, sacred beings ~

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Twin Flame, Karmic Attachment, and co-dependency? How not to get taken advantage of in love. 

  
Twin flames, and karmic attachments are both soul mirrors to us, in a sense. Both unions provide the opportunity for us to see any emotional/energetic blockages that have been stored within us, as well as useful, and not so useful patterns that we have developed from our parents, cultures, and societies.

Now of course twin flames are the ultimate mirror, and ultimate emphasiser of what goes on underneath, and what parts of us are destructive, and what need healing, but karmic attachments also attempt to point us in these directions toward wholeness, by typically mirroring back to us the worst kind of relationship that we could EVER imagine!

If you are caught in a karmic attachment, then you are fully aware that something does NOT feel right, and it never has. You frequently find yourself feel anxious, depressed, unworthy, and almost as if you have to constantly, and consistently earn your partners affections. When I myself was caught in a karmic attachment, I became even more mentally unwell than I already was. Days were spent crying over my loves lack of affection, and BLATENT lack of interest, and then I would switch in between messaging him excessively, and trying to pour my heart out to him, in order to gain some sort of sub par response – which I barely ever did.  

  
The point I want to make here is, none of this ever stopped me. None of the tears over being unappreciated, or his re-affirmation to me continuously that he did not want a relationship, and did not want to be committed to me, ever stopped me from running after him, continually expressing my love for him, and giving myself to him fully.

I did not care that he was not in love with me. As long as he gave me something that remotely resembled love. I did not care that he did not want a relationship. (As long as he occasionally fathomed interest, even if it was only of the sexual kind). I did not care that he would go hours, upon hours before responding to any of my messages, (though my intuition always told me that he had seen them before hand), as long as he eventually did reply. 

And sure enough, there I would be, phone in hand, waiting anxiously for his arrival, for a notification that he had actually remembered and acknowledged my existence. That was enough to satisfy my heart into thinking that I was relevant. 

This was possibly one of the worst forms of abuse that I had ever endured. And what made it so terrible? Was that it was self inflicted. I did not have to keep chasing after him. I did not have to keep allowing myself to be treated this way. At any time that I wanted to, I could have cut contact, told him that I wanted nothing more to do with him, and that I deserved better. But the key point here, is that I did not. 

Somewhere buried deep within me, perhaps not as deep as I thought, existed the belief that I was deserving of this kind of treatment. That I was deserving of minimal displays of love, and that I was worthy of being ignored, repeatedly. I know now that this is because I was not fully showing up as myself. So how could I ever expect that somebody else would show up for me? How could I expect to have somebody who was fully open, and available to me, when I was not even fully open and available to myself? I was avoiding myself, desperately. I was so in need of me, so in need of ‘fixing’, and I tried to avoid this responsibility, by passing it on to somebody else to follow. Somebody who, through no disrespect, was never the man for the job. 

  
So, why did I put up with so much of this unnecessary pain when it was as simple as getting up and leaving? Announcing that I deserved more, and then proceeding to go and actually find more? 

And the simplest answer? I absolutely loathed myself. Yes, I did. The way that I was treating myself, reflected the way that he had been treating me, and the way that I had once been treated in childhood, so this feeling was familiar, so I did not see too much need to fight it, nor rock the boat.

This was a man who was emotionally Unavailable, shut down, and unable to utter any words, or actions that mimicked commitment, or intimacy. Yet here I was, a hopeless romantic, with an expansive heart chakra, holding onto him with everything that I had, and refusing to go anywhere! Honestly, I was borderline obsessive, and I thought that this was love. I thought that the momentary high that I received when he showed me the slightest bit of recognition was worth all of the lows. I thought that it was happiness. And all because I was holding onto all of these patterns, inherited from generations before me, and all of these beliefs attached to low self esteem, and the attraction of pain.

  
Remember that thing that I said about mirrors? About how these types of unions show us the parts of ourselves that desire recognition? Well yes, I did not love myself, or appreciate myself, neither did I want to commit to myself, so I attracted this soul who manifested these very same issues. 

Now, this is the objective of karmic attachments. I like to view them as sort of, a curse, let me explain this. This does not mean to say that these types of unions are inherently bad, or evil, because if you view them in this way, then you will never heal or move on from them. 

A curse is something unpleasant that can remain trapped within somebody, or within a particular line of people, occurring over, and over again, in a loop, until it is broken. This is exactly what a karmic attachment is. The particular attachment that I am describing lasted just over 3 years, but trust me, I know people who have been stuck in these types of unions for 7+ years, they are THAT addictive, especially when you just cannot pry your eyes, and your mind to see beyond what is directly infront of you.

If only we could all look a little bit deeper into ourselves, if only, we would find the world existing only as we are, and then we would realise how to overcome our negative experiences, and use them for outward healing purposes.

What is co-dependency and anxious attachment style?

Co dependency and anxious attachment style in psychology, are the exact reasons that so many empaths, healers, or light workers, tend to experience so many karmic attachments throughout their lives, and many eventually, also the twin flame union. 

These are terms that describe the behaviours of somebody who is so fixated on attaining love, and feeling wanted, and needed, that they continuously neglect themselves. The behaviours that we associate with these terms are needy, clingy, obsessive, and draining. Though they may not mean to behave in these ways, these souls are so bruised, they are always searching for cues that their beloved will leave them, and will resort to extreme, and manipulative tactics to stop this from happening. 

Doesn’t sound much like a healer?

Do not forget all about the birth of a healer. Before a healer steps into their rightful position as a healer, they are practically injected with all of these pains, all of these emotional, energetic, and generational downloads, that they must transmute, and release. This is not an easy task, particularly for the healer who does not know that they are a healer, and is just trying to live a ‘normal’, and neat life. 

The abuse of self will continue in these unions, until the empath learns that this is not love, this is dysfunction, and the only way out, is in, within ones self. 

Twin flames, and the terrible tales.

Because of all of the false information depicted about twin flames on the internet, many people have adopted the belief that twin flame unions are these happy, hippy dippy perfect relationships, where everything runs smoothly, and perfectly. This is so far from the truth. Those of us who are actually apart of, or have experienced a twin flame Union, will know how difficult, confusing, and painful that this Union can be. 

This is the ULTIMATE mirror relationship, and every single drop of your emotional, mental, and spiritual baggage, will be dragged to the surface, and you will BOTH have to deal with them. 

For this reason, it is a misconception that the twin flame Union can be void of ill treatment. Yes, your twin flame can still be disrespectful, unappreciative, and inconsiderate towards you. Remember, that they are also now dealing with many life times of baggage, and unwanted realisations. This can make a person incredibly selfish, confused, and depressed. (However, there is always a line, and you should be able to decipher when, and whether somebody is being outwardly abusive. Abusive relationships are NOT to be confused with this dynamic).

And this does not mean that you have to take it, nor that you have to accept it, under the guise of ‘divine love’, divine love feels divine. And does not feel like neglect.

This is the main reason why I say that this Union is all about you, designed to heal you, and bring you back to you. This is to break the chain of co-dependent, and self defeating relationships that you have endured, not exhasperate them. Your twin flame arrived as a lesson to you, not to just see you doing all of the same things, that you have always done. Remember that concept of the curse that I was telling you about?

Work on yourself. Break this chain. Allow your twin/karmic attachment to work on themselves. You can still hold unconditional love for them in your heart, whilst believing in, and exercising your right for self love and self respect. 

Many healers, and intuitives dare not say this, but what the hell, I am a little ris-que, don’t you dare be afraid to date soul mates during the ‘separation stage’. Don’t you dare be afraid to live, to feel, to explore love… But don’t you dare forget to heal either! 

This was your great awakening, do not let it be your great death.

Blessed be, Cindy ~ 

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