‘Celebrity culture, and television dreaming’. Mini article.

  
In a capitalistic society, ‘celebrity culture’, and ‘popular culture’, are one in the same. Ofcourse, it could be no other way.
Without the luring promise of a life filled with praise, admiration, boundless riches, and perceived emotional fulfilment, how would the hierarchal queen b, keep the little worker b’s working, and dreaming?
In western culture, celebrity culture has assumed the position that a monarchy, or a religious sect would, in previous times, dominating all influence, cultural, social, and moral significance. For the largest part, we are all under the rule of celebrity culture, and that which it dictates.

‘We’, ofcourse being the collective.
If there was no celebrity culture, how would you define your own ideals of success? What would success look like for you? 

How would you measure your happiness, or your ideals of what you should, and should not achieve?

Where would you look to for salvation, gratification?

Would you continue to live vicariously? Or would you actually go out there and live your dreams.. Television creates a false sense of experience, that is why it produces a lethargic, and procrastinated set of logics.

The part of the brain that engages with television, can easily trick the self into believing that they are the ones experiencing these situations, and emotions, (if they are drawn into what they are viewing).

Consequently, the watcher rather than growing inspired to live out their own destiny, enjoys a false sense of satisfaction from viewing others live out this dream reality.
How is celebrity culture so profitable?

Well, if you make a culture of people insecure enough, there is no limit to what they will purchase for fulfilment.. 
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Hook up culture, sacred sensuality(sexuality), tantric sex, and womb healing.

 

The ‘marriage culture’ that we have come to know from our parents generation of failed partnerships, & no intimacy, is what was destructive. We know better now. We no longer have to marry out of cultural necessity, we actually get to CHOOSE now. That in itself is beautiful.. 
Hook up culture is the result of a psychologically afflicted generation, too bruised by the degradation of relationship values they’ve seen. We no longer honour the sanctity of union-ship. From music, to television, the marriage template is portrayed as stagnant, and Un-enjoyable. No sanctity of union ship, no desire to build a strong family unit = broken communities, weaker social ties & understanding of relationship (dynamics). We are heading toward a culture of several,’baby mothers’, and ‘baby fathers’, with no family bonds, nor community practice. The fact that people come on Twitter and even make jokes/ memes, out of having, ‘side chicks, and ‘side guys’ is proof of desensitisation. 

The holy trinity, mother + father + [=]child, (masculine and feminine energies combining to the highest essence of creation).. That’s love.

 
If people believed they would genuinely be loved, respected, and received if they entered a partnership, there would be no ‘hook up culture’

Yes, (we) humanity may be collectively moving toward new ideals. But not ALL of these are progressive. Some are still born of trauma.

A generation that largely witnessed the break down of their parents marriages, (their mother’s lack of expression+ their fathers lack of enthusiasm), are inevitably going to view partnership with contempt, and something signifying entrapment, and passive acceptance. 

   
 The only true reason, you’ll want to be having sex with others without building emotional bonds, is because you are fearful of such intimacy. In your humble opinion, it is far easier to, ‘mimic’ this form of closeness, as naturally, all humans require some level of social bonding. Sex, for many, is as close as it gets to love.
If you study sacred sexuality, you would know there can be no separation from intimacy, love and sex.

  
It has only become so, since those in power realised the manifestation power behind such sexual cultivation.. 

Keep people focused on the primal aspects of sex, and they remain trapped in ego consciousness.
You know you can actually cause trauma to a woman’s womb, and psyche, under the guise of a ‘one night stand?’ Men awaken a portal within a woman after sexual intimacy. To then close that portal, or deny responsibility for all that awakens with it, is to prematurely stunt her energy formation. It causes trauma because it reduces her to her sexual organs, in terms of validity. 
Women, and men experience sex a little differently.. Aside from tantric sex, and twin flame sex, that awakens awareness in both partners, generally, the process of sex is more physical for men, (unless they practice sacred sensuality), and the process for women, is largely emotional. During sex, a woman’s heart centre may be activated through stimulation of her breasts, (the heart centre/chakra sits right Inbetween), or through stimuli-station of the womb, which is thought to also ignite feelings of either safety/protection, or fear, and attack. It is not surprise that the womb is associated with feelings of love and comfort – this is the very place that houses in-coming souls.

  [it should also be noted that this symbol is a universal symbol of healing ]

The goal in tantric sex, is to allow both partners to transform their sexual energy, into creative, godly energy, (love). Through the pro-longing of the orgasm, the man trains himself to maintain this momentary glimpse of heaven, by involving not only his lower chakras, but moving from the lower centre, to the higher centres, therefore igniting kundalini awakening. – just think of the snake spiralling up the chakra system, making its way through to the top.

This process begins quite naturally in women after intercourse.. (Well, at least it tries to).
Woman, by nature is accustom to being nurturing and receptive. To making a home out of all she is given. 

You cannot stir this process within her, and then force her to dismantle the alchemical transformation whilst it is in progress..

Biologically, at this point, she is awakening, (the true purpose of sex). Abandoning her afterward is equivalent to awakening a sleeping child,only to offer them a sleeping pill whilst they are finally adjusting to being awakened. The confusion of the natural process is damaging.

When you enter a woman, she has surrendered to you.. In turn, you owe her a duty, of succumbing to whatever arises within her.. Because at that point, it is an accumulation of both of your energies. She is experiencing not only her awakening, but stirring yours.

Her behaviour afterward will shine a light on all that you are. If she begins to act fearful, she is responding to a place of fear within you both. If she grows more loving and playful, she is reflecting this nature within yourself.. Listen and take heed.

Abstinence, and a prolonged period of celibacy is a good cure for women who have, in the past given their sexual power away in anyway. Sexual power can be given (taken)away in a magnitude of ways. People pleasers who use sex as a means to validate their desirability, are but one way sexual power may be given. In this case, the abuse is self inflicted, though very much as potent in its damaging effects. 

In this absence, the woman should spend time honouring her womb, (rituals to celebrate moon cycles, and womb cycles), and learn of its divinity.

The self cleansing mechanisms of the vagina, will take care of the rest. Largely, it is a mental game of re-introducing harmony.

There are also forms of visualisation meditation that can see you through retrieving parts of your soul that were lost..

   
 Poetry by me,

‘We are the generation who forgot how to love’.

“We are the generation who forgot how to love.
So we bury our emotions beneath rocks.
So we build these walls, and we say that they keep out our deepest fears, but really, they just deprive us of the kind of love that our soul wants.
Maybe it was Disney films and it’s false depictions of love, that set our standards far too high, far too unrealistic, and far too unattainable.
Maybe, we were the generation who saw the deterioration of our parents marriages, some born out of cultural necessity, others frivolous victims to the arrival of the 60’s, where love was ‘free’, and begun to shun monogamy. 
Many of us are the parents of immigrants from distant lands, that know no romance. 

We are the generation who grew up in an era of social media, the world available at our finger tips, love filled words exchanged over screens, by ferocious finger tips. How could love ever cease to exist?

It hasn’t,

But nowadays, it is almost a fools wish.”

Cinderella Anneh-bu

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The travesty of the hyper-masculine archetype. 

  
I have not completed my post on numerology as of yet, but that will be coming through soon..

From my study, and my observation, I have seen that males carrying the life path of 1, 11, and 9 are most prone to the wounded healer archetype, this is because this is also the templates of the spiritual healers, the channellers, and the way showers.
Astrologically speaking, men under the star sign of Scorpio, cancer, and Pisces are also very likely to hold hyper sensitive traits, and a considerable amount of feminine energy, and this is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! Men within this group tend to hold a very special, and tender relationship with their mothers, and a great appreciation for women, though this may be counter acted by a very hyper masculine father, who views women from the old ways of thinking, as inferior, and lesser commodities.
The challenge then, for these men, is to create an open space within themselves where they can allow this feminine energy to flow freely, (effectively healing themselves), and counteract the pain of the misinformation, and dogma inherited from their fathers, and their paternal karmic line.
If none of this makes very much sense to you, and if you are a man who would like to calculate your own life path and find out how to heal, email me, (email in bio).

Despite what we have been socialised to believe, men expressing healthy emotions such as sadness, empathy, and love show incredibly health benefits, to both mind, and body.

So many men are in pain, because they are in so much emotional turmoil, and they have never been taught how to express it, or that it is ok to express it.

The luckier of the few, will go on to attract highly feminine women, who will balance their energies, and teach them to open up.. 
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Abandonment based anxiety in relationships. 

  
It is easy to lose your head quickly, or become lost in a stream of negative thoughts when you are constantly searching for cues that your partner will abandon you.
After all, your perception of the world is fuelled by the belief that you will one day, or will always be, abandoned, either for somebody who is more preferred, or just abandoned solely because you are you, and you are abandon-able (yes I just made up my own word). However, there is this little thing called a self fulfilling prophecy. When we lend our energy to the belief, and the occurrence of something, we actually draw it into our reality, and make it a possibility, even if it wasn’t one prior to this.
Example? If you are stuck with the belief that you are unworthy of love, and therefore more susceptible to becoming abandoned, there are certain behaviours that you will adopt whilst on hyper alert, whilst trying to protect yourself, from perceived abandonment. 

The Ego is particularly ravenous when it fears that it is about to be met with its deepest wounding, especially that original wound that set the Table for all others to gather, much later. 

Behaviours such as excessive calling, texting, or attempting to make contact in the midst of the fear of becoming abandoned will push your partner away faster than anything else ever could. Co-dependency feels messy, nervous & too highly strung to anybody on the receiving end of it, though it is not intended to be seen that way.
To the person with abandonment based anxiety, they are merely pouring out their heart to their love and trying to get their love to see how much they truly love them, which only causes them further distress when their love rejects these outward displays of affection.. It is because this affection is coming from a space of Ego and wounding, and not from the heart, and your partner can feel this.

Paranoia and false accusations leading to your partner beginning to feel trapped, claustrophobic and uncomfortable are also a side effect of the reactions of those who suffer from abandonment based anxiety. 
Their thought stream of negativity will cause them to make connections where connections do not exist.
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We are the generation who forgot how to love.

  
“We are the generation who forgot how to love.
So we bury our emotions beneath rocks.
So we build these walls, and we say that they keep out our deepest fears, but really, they just deprive us of the kind of love that our soul wants.
Maybe it was Disney films and it’s false depictions of love, that set our standards far too high, far too unrealistic, and far too unattainable.
Maybe, we were the generation who saw the deterioration of our parents marriages, some born out of cultural necessity, others frivolous victims to the arrival of the 60’s, where love was ‘free’, and begun to shun monogamy. 
Many of us are the parents of immigrants from distant lands, that know no romance. 

We are the generation who grew up in an era of social media, the world available at our finger tips, love filled words exchanged over screens, by ferocious finger tips. How could love ever cease to exist?

It hasn’t,

But nowadays, it is almost a fools wish.”

Cinderella Anneh-bu
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The structural break down of the family, modern day feminism, television, hip hop, and the psychology of culture.

  
Have you ever noticed how the structure of the family is broken down, consistently, and subliminally before our very eyes?
Look at most of the television shows that are available to us now. How many propose the narrative of a happy and secure family network? I am not talking about alienating, or ignoring the fact that even couples, and married people who are happy have the occasional arguments, and disagreements, but I mean a family dynamic in which both partners actually work at cultivating consistency.

And how about the shows that popular culture currently can not get enough of. ‘Reality’ TV shows, that are about as realistic and proportional to our lives as dinosaurs, a particular one that springs to mind is, ‘love and hip hop’.

Now frankly, I haven’t really had the chance to sit down and watch it myself, (which is probably extremely dangerous to proceed to talk about in journalism world, but anyway), from what I have heard, this is all about a show of cliches and stereotypes. The sassy black woman, who appears not to take any ‘bs’, Is Fiercely ‘independent’, (boarder line obnoxious), and strong, ‘portrayed as, irrationally angry’.

Whilst it features the stereotypical black male, as propagated by the main media outlets, suffering from a serious case of baby boy-ism, (a psychological condition that I have coined relating to the male psyche’s reluctance to accept his passing of age, and with this the coming of responsibilities, including reliability).

So the whole show spells train wreck to me, and as somebody who has had to take years to mentally decolonize from layers of the stereotypes, and subliminal programming of television, I have every idea how dangerous these perceptions and stereotypes are, and can be..

You see, it is not necessary what they represent, as it is the ways that they glorify what they represent.

The dawn of the divine feminine rising is upon us. And I believe that those in power knew very well that this time would come, so as they do, they tried their best to manipulate these energies, so even when they did arrive, they would be interpreted in a way that was not beneficial, or natural to the masses.

Example – main stream ‘feminism’.

Now, I place the term feminism in quotes here, because I am no longer sure of exactly what feminism is. Since arriving as a mass, sub movement, (to the assumed movement outside of the world of social media), the word feminism has taken on several sub denominations, and has become more of a cultural shift, than an actual movement.

Yes, many women everywhere are now completely taking charge of their bodies, of their rights for expression, and their desires to not only be seen, but heard.

But what exactly is the message that they are conveying?

Is it equality of a social, hirearchal, and cultural spectrum?

Well, I believe that it should be..

Or is it a ray of hurled abusive slogans, and the aggressive use of the female body to make some sort of statement about sexuality and power, that is often missed by the presence of faux pro-feminist men who are really just perverse undercovers, or by the next generation of impressionable young women who think that baring the flesh is the best way to claim your feminine sexual power.

Sure, in the eyes of many that is one way to view it. And after several thousands of years of oppression, perhaps it is even quite understandable that the femme wants to come back out in this way.

But where are the female empowerers who teach women to claim back their sexual power using the psychological reconstruction of the mind? And not just the image of the flesh. As sexual malice, and sexism is psychological, and in – fact not of the flesh at all.

Let’s face it, the sexualisation of the female body is not only engrained in a sexist society, but is also engrained in biology. Shouldn’t the focus be on the matters that truly silence a woman’s divine essence? Such as those who have been sexually abused or manipulated. Some of whom no longer have the comfort within their own body to bare themselves in the name of self empowerment. And even if they did, wouldn’t this sort of take away from the whole, ‘my body is mine, and I am taking it back’ theory?

Sexual passive aggression, which essentially this is, is not to be mistaken for sexual empowerment. There is a clear difference. 

So how does this relate to the break down of the family?

Ah yes, so traditionally women have been the home, and the peace makers, keeping everything together – some may argue that marriage even disadvantaged them in this way, and is no longer necessary, but human beings are social animals, we thrive on our ability to be able to build, and sustain stable communities. It is imperative for the survival of man kind. So what does this mean for man kind?

Sexual liberation is fantastic, it means the potential for  kundalini awakening, and healing. But what about when it is used to prove a point? That, ‘I can do exactly as men do’. ‘ I can adopt a masculine approach, and my inability for submission is strength’.

Now, let us not get me wrong, submission is healthy and necessary by both males and females in any Union, but once again, biologically, men are the hunters, and the chasers, and women tend to surrender to those who they deem a fit, and suitable mate. If the traditionally accepting, and surrendering counterpart refuses to submit, then who teaches the man to?

Who leads who?

  
Let’s talk about hip hop culture, which is now pretty much ‘THE culture’, and has possibly the largest influence on the societal and cultural distinctions of the entire world. It is popular culture, and thus manifests itself in various forms. It is the most profitable market as it stands, because it has become the definitive voice for what is cool, and what isn’t.

How does hip hop culture degrade the sanctity of the family?

What family? Since hip hop itself has cashed in on its own materialistic profitability, it’s message has slowly transformed from political, social, and cultural activism and education, to social, cultural, and mental annihilation, indoctrinating the youth with messages of superficiality, promiscuity, a disrespect for women, and a hazardous hyper masculinity!

Even if these men are going back home to their wives every night, by the time that they have finished recording, and airing their boisterous lyrics, much of the damage has already been done! And they become a daily, weekly chant for young impressionable minds who very often do not have other male remodels to shape, and influence their beings. Thus, the powerful effects of music, become self explanatory, and the narrative of these songs, become the narratives of their lives.

Hypermasculinity knows nothing of submission. In-fact hyper masculinity  is largely in relation to, and in fact, to blame for the version of main stream feminism that also refuses to submit! It is a classic game of tit for tat. And no side shall ever successfully win, until they realise that the resolution lies with integration, and not segregation.

The hyper masculine man refuses to take on the liberal woman, whilst the liberal woman refuses to accept everything that the hyper masculine man stands for – yet they are both fairly psychologically disturbed!

This may come as a surprise to some, but due to my own observations, those who have such an intense desire to be free from control and restriction, and use such overt means, are still carrying with them the pain, and the bitterness of times where they have felt, and have been powerless. In this instance, this movement is not based on healing, or taking charge, and is instead based on the consistent triggering of an unhealed wound.

Much is similar of those suffering from hyper masculinity. The majority are also the product of a severely old fashioned, patriarchal, emotionally submissive environment where they were taught to believe that emotions associated with women, and femininity were not allowed, or perceived as weaknesses, which is incredibly dangerous to the human psyche! We all feel pain, and we should all be allowed to access, and express that pain.

A society that raises men to believe that certain emotions are feminine, and inherently weak, is a society that teaches men that women’s emotions are invaluable, invalid, inferior, and a liability.

Let’s not forget to mention the subtle jokes, and hints that always seem to creep their way into films, media, and sitcoms. The stereotypes that marriage is one huge unhappy experience, that married people no longer make love, and that this unhappiness leads inevitably to infidelity.

Marriage is not a death sentence. Love is not a death sentence. The break down of the family network leaves everybody far more suceptible and vulnerable to separation/division tactics, and also to the subtle insecurities projected of abandonment, and neglect, that are already so deeply embedded into the consciousnesses of man.

Perhaps soon, the ideal family template will be a thing of the past altogether. Children will no longer be born into the sanctity of a loving mother and father’s bond, who teach them not only what love is, and how to love, but that they are worthy of love itself, by default. 

Statistics show that the implementation of a healthy family structure at a young age, helps in developing future adults who know how to build healthy, and successful community networks, whilst thriving as an active member of their own societies.

We are already witnessing hook up culture take precedence over relationships, the idea of monogamy being questioned, (severely), and the topic of having a ‘side’ partner, weaned slowly, strategically, and satirically into everyday casual acceptance .

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How Numerology/Astrology could have saved me from a failed love story.. Sample Report Version. 

  
Well, I thought what a better example to use than myself.

I experienced two life changing, transforming unions over the past few years. The first, was my ‘false twin flame’, twin flame prep, or rather ‘karmic attachment, and the second, was my actual twin flame, the true love of my soul. And guess what, both of them were the life path of 11. 

So I know what you are thinking, that pretty much means they were the same right? And that is why I confused the first with being my actual twin flame instead of a prep? Well, yes, and no. Those belonging to the same life path group may indeed mimick one another in a magnitude of ways, but depending on the individuals actual energetic imprint, and other influencing factors, such as star sign, two souls belonging to the same life path will vary in different ways.

So yes, both of these two men shared similar life path 11 energies, thriving internal worlds, intense intuition, and sensitivity, but they articulated this very differently.

  
My false twin flame was not a horrible man. If he was, I would never have fallen so deeply for him, (despite the fact that he was such an avid manipulator, who’s ego wouldn’t have had things any other way). He was simply consumed, by many things associated with being a wounded healer upon this journey, particularly narcissism.

My false twin was a Capricorn. Known for their seemingly cold, stand-offish and closed nature. Combined with being a life path 11, his thriving intuition and chaotic inner world meant that he developed an extra stern, and hard exterior, as not to let any news slip of his internal drama!

Capricorns, (men especially), have been taught from an early age that outward displays of emotion do not garner affectionate responses, and therefore tend to withhold emotion (viewing this as a statement of power), whilst finding ways to punish those who do open up, and who show a level of emotion that causes them to feel uncomfortable. 

So how was my life path 11 twin flame any different?

  

Well, for one, he was a Scorpio. Now scorpions, men especially, are known for their intensity, emotionally, and romantically. He was the 11 who was open about the chaos that became of his mind, allowing me the open space to reciprocate, opening up about my own experiences with over thinking as a life path 7, and cultivate an open trusting, intimate bond.

Scorpions are very sensitive to rejection, so whilst, my false twin was with holding emotion as a form of power/punishment/dominance, my true twin flame, simply held in his emotion through fear of being rejected, not through malice, not through manipulation, but through a fear of not being enough.

The Capricorn however, in his state of deprivation, had managed to convince himself that not only was he ‘enough’, but in-fact, was ‘too much’, and I should have been lucky to know him – cheeky or what?!
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