Soul ties, and breaking free. 

  
What is a soul tie? And do we all have one?

Well yes, and no..

A soul tie is somebody with whom we share a deep emotional, and/or spiritual connection with. A soul tie can even be tied accidentally, in the case of physical intimacy, where ones energy refuses to be called back after merging with another.
Everybody has at one point in their lives been tied to a soul yes, but not everybody necessarily has a soul tie, as this term is mostly reserved for those who cannot seem to break free of their connection with another soul, no matter what they do, no matter how hard they try. This obsession can even take over their lives completely, resulting in them obsessively day dreaming about this person, and putting their own health at risk, at the expense of pining over them.
There is nothing remotely romantic, nor spiritual about this type of connection, and it is not to be confused with a soul mate connection, in which both souls are submerged in a feeling of love. A soul tie is most frequently one sided. This is why it is referred to as a tie, it may be seen as a form of entrapment.

Empaths are most at risk of developing these types of ties as they attract the energy of others to flow freely to, and from them, merging with the emotions/thoughts, and feelings of others.
Nobody can break a soul tie, but you. It is within your conscious effort and decision to say, ‘I am not chained, nor bound by this soul’. The moment you release these words, you create a shift in energy, from, ‘I need you’, to ‘I am not required to stay where my love is unheard’. This is why hook up culture is so destructive.. So many soul ties, so little knowledge of invisible bonding.. It is the thoughts that you create surrounding your soul tie that keep you ‘tied’. Your thoughts create the emotions that centre them. Looking back in retrospect, you may find yourself only pondering over the perceived good/happy times with them, forsaking their faults. Yes! There were faults, don’t you dare forget there were faults and become fixated upon some illusionary idealistic version of who they are. 

When you find yourself thinking excessively about somebody, ask yourself..what are these thoughts motivated by? Loneliness? Boredom? More than likely, you will find that they are.We are more likely to form & maintain unhealthy soul ties when we are unhappy with our present, as they begin to cement as means of escapism, particularly for my little dreamers…

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Twin flames, soul mates, and karmic attachments, the novelty of forbidden love, and facing the shadow – A Charmed special. 

  
Phoebe and Cole.

If you are not familiar with charmed, and are interested in spirituality, I seriously advise you to check out a season or two. It explains many spiritual principles, both directly, and through metaphor. 

Long story short, it is based around the lives of three sisters witches, who came into their powers following a prophecy made by their ancestor, that they would be the most powerful force of good in the world – of all time, countering the active forces of evil that exist in the world – light workers much?

Now, Phoebe, the youngest sister, (for the first few seasons, played fantastically by Alyssa Milano), is clairvoyant, and later becomes clairsentient, (an empath). There have been a few incidences over the years in the show that have touched on her being less powerful magically than the others, as her power was the only passive power, though her intensified intuition, and ability to think, and see outside the lines saved all sisters more times than their combined powers put together. Never undestimate extra sensory perception!

It is my strong belief that it is the path of all healers to experience both sides of the spectrum of existence, both good, and evil, for them to understand how they may cultivate balance. And this is exactly the situation that took place with the characters phoebe, and Cole.

  
Cole, (Phoebe’s lover in the show), was a demon. Despite this, the love that they had for one another, penetrated any boarders, or limitations that they may have faced, including the stigma of forbidden love, which is just the twin flame template. Not to mention the balancing of two opposing energies, igniting an alchemical reaction whereby BOTH are transformed. 

The course of their love found Cole spending some time running away, and avoiding phoebe, whilst trying to maintain his ‘evil’ status, and rid himself of his undying love for her. She however, during this time, determined to save their love, and believing that she could redeem her, continued to pursue him, until alas, his love for her was so powerful, he decided that he did want to change..

Why of course, it was the evil in Cole that attracted phoebe, as it played her a glimpse of her shadow self, and it was the good in Phoebe that captivated Cole, as the same goodness existed within him, whether the two chose to see so, or not.

There is something to be said about the healer, and their path in love. Healers, on the path to becoming a healer must sacrifice themselves on the path of love, they are often met with many soul mates are karmic attachments with whom they share tumultuous, or tragic relationships. This is usually because the healer at this point has many unresolved issues, and they need to see this played out in their relationships, if they are to ever gain insight into their mission on this planet.

To learn love, to know love, you have to experience it in its darkest form. You have to know what must be removed to keep it pure. To keep it, love.

The ultimate sacrifice.

  

After numerous attempts for Cole to redeem himself, and pursue the path of righteousness, the lure of wrong doing was too strong, and before long, he had returned to the underworld, and to his old ways, except this time.. He took Phoebe with him!

So dark and engulfing was his shadow self, that it dragged Phoebe down also, causing her to face her own darkness, through facing him. It had to be her own choice to return to the path of the light, and the truth, but this was never going to be an easy choice. If she was to return to the light, this would mean releasing her love, sacrificing him, for the cause of the greater good.
  
Only the strong, only the brave, can dwell in the depths of the darkest love, and rise once again, with a new found understanding, and appreciation for life, for love. In letting him go, she became..

So, was that the end of their love story?

‘I was dead before I met you, I was born the day you loved me, and my love for you will keep me alive, forever.’

Cole about Phoebe Halliwell
No, it was not. 

  
Cole makes a re-appearance twice, after him and phoebe’s love story has been diminished. Both times, his attempts were to restore her faith in love, to show her that love did not have to be all about love, loss, and fear, the way that it was with him. Such was his love for her, that even after he had no more to offer her, the only thing that he desired was her happiness, whether it included him, or not.

He finally found the peace that he had been looking for. His karma for his deeds was ending up in a vaccum sort of dimension, between time, and space, life, and death. One could say that this was a metaphor for having found balance.

Phoebe also went on to marry a Cupid, the epitome of love. All along her journey was one of love, as a healer, and an empath. She came to know that each love story had offered her something, each love story had prepared her for her last. 

  

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One day, when he’s older..

   
 
One day, it will cease to be enough.
He will grow tired of standing idlley by on street corners, discussing women, and decisions, and extorting politicians.

He will grow vision.

He will no longer be a victim of his environment, neither will his lust for life be filled by fleshy desires that tarnish the soul.

He will question the way in which he views women. He will cease seeing them as individuals, and therefore separate in his treatment of them, but he will come to understand that they all, are delicate beings.

And he will no longer have any harsh words for the ones who do not know their worth. He will see in them, his own crooked verbs, lies he once told that caused them hurt. The result of such a curse, he bears witness to.

And then this man will search for a woman, not a girl. With whom he can correct his crooked world, avert his nerves..

Should he be so lucky, through her, he can learn.
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Twin Flame Taboo; waiting, anticipating, and dating during the ‘separation phase’.

  
One of the greatest twin flame lessons that are learned, and endured, is the lesson of cultivating love – without physical contact.

Whether we have spent several months, or a few weeks only in the bubble love phase, true twin flames who are absolutely loaded to the rim with energetic, and emotional karma, will inevitably have to endure the stage of separation, in order to balance their energies properly.

This is the excruciating stage whereby, twin flames who once couldn’t bear to be without each other for a second, now find themselves spending months, even years, lost, longingly wondering what is to become of them, and their life. 

Typically, this sets off a dark night of the soul for the twins on both paths. Though it is the ‘chaser’, or ‘stayer’ twin rather, who can attribute their feelings of longing and despair to missing their life partner. The ‘runner’ twin will also find that their life has been turned upside down, even if they do not know that this is because their twin has unconsciously activated their life purpose, and consequently set off all of their triggers.

Now, this realisation of what has gone wrong is absolutely shattering to the stayer twin, as their twin usually rejects any, and every effort for contact and reconciliation following that point. By this time, the stayer twin has awakened to all that this Union means, and they find it impossible to cut the invisible chord that binds the two.

Imagine knowing that you have found the love of your life, holding the knowing that they are perfectly (though imperfectly) scripted for you in every way, and knowing that they love you too, but for whatever reason, they appear to want absolutely nothing to do with you.

It is important not to go jumping to conclusions when reading the twin flame separation phase symptoms, as these symptoms can also relate in part to karmic attachments and, any other kind of co-dependent or abusive relationship. 

With the twin flame Union, even during separation, the ‘runner’ twin will send feelings of love, and comfort, that will be felt energetically, even if misunderstood. Though, that being said, it is true that this Union can often ‘mimic’ these sorts of unhealthy attachments. 

And this, is the very reason for this article. 

All of the twins, (including myself), that I have come across experiencing this journey have been in unspeakable agony, waiting, longing, and yearning for their twin. So many have put their entire lives on hold, and frozen their self worth, awaiting it’s ressurection  by their twin. This is wrong on all accounts. Not only because the twin flame Union is designed to break these co-dependent patterns, but also because then, you are not learning unconditional love. You are still searching for conditions, because granted, if you do not get a desirable response, (or any response for that matter), from your twin, you are sent into a spiralling rail of gloom, doom, depression, and self loathing.

Some even wait years, losing the ‘best’ years of their lives to the emotional torment of missing their twin, whilst their twin continues to live a life seemingly unphased. Conaequently, the life of the stayer twin become nothing but a series of emotional pits, anxiety, and Non-fulfilment.

The divine would never choose for you to live your life this way. In fact, this is not living. This is torment. Every time that you obsess over your twin posing with a new man/woman on social media, or about the important date that they did not contact you on, you are slowly opening up the childhood wound that breathes, ‘you are not enough’.

Which brings me to my ultimate, scandalous point.. The twin flame taboo.

Dating a soul mate..

 
For the longest time it seems, that the theory of twin flames has been that we are not meant for anybody else. This is both true, and false. Sure, according to the grand design the twin flame Union is our ultimate resonance, and our souls highest purpose, but this is only IF both twins clear themselves of the egos way of thinking, feeling, and living. Otherwise, they are certainly not, ‘meant’ to be together. 

Take a look at the example of a fully activated and self actualised stayer twin, who completes all the necessary self work, is fully on the road to recovery, takes charge of their destiny, and then the, ‘matrix’ twin, who is still stuck in ego consciousness, who refuses to choose the light, or continues to harm themselves, and others with low vibrational, or abusive behaviour. How in anyway then, are these two, ‘meant to be together’?

Because of a label? Surely, we have now realised that labels are not enough. The universe is all about energy, and after a while, you must ask yourself, am I giving away all of my energy and getting nothing back? Twin or not, what a harmful and toxic existence.

Many of those who are horrified by the idea of twin flames dating a soul mate, are only this way because they are still stuck in ego consciousness. They fear that dating a soul mate may completely invalidate the divinity, or authenticity of their twin flame union, or exile any possibility of a reunion, this is all untrue.

  
Sometimes, for whatever reason, through the years, it strikes you that your twin flames journey is separate from yours, and you must accept this, and grow within your circumstances, releasing your desire to control. This does not diminish, nor erase the bond/connection.. And twins are due to keep finding their way into each other’s paths, regardless of how many years, have come, and passed…

  

So what happens when a twin flame dates/falls in love with/marries a soul mate?

  
Well, soul mate relationships are far less energetically charged, and tumultuous than twin flame relationships, and often we will find that they run far more smoothly. Now this article is not in Anyway anti twin flames, and dating a soul mate also has its pros for those twins who are destined to re-unite, they may provide valuable lessons to learn about love, and about yourself, whilst your twin is not present to allow, and to help you to work through those issues. Let’s just say many soul mate relationships upon the journey are mini role plays of bigger issues that you actually had to work out with your twin, for your growth.

Live in the moment, the here and the now. Do not miss out, for a future that is unpromised.

  
If a soul mate relationship is successful for a twin flame, their high vibrations will elevate for both, and their partner to heights most profound, though they will be eternally connected to their twin.

They may experience a relationship of the highest bliss, and love, all because of the element of twin flame vibrations that are brought by the one twin.

It is also very likely that any children they bore, will hold the place of the next generation of lightworkers/star seeds. Thus, the element of spiritual love, and it’s manifestations, are never lost.
Blessed be my sacred beings ~

Cindy Anneh-bu © 2015

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How Numerology/Astrology could have saved me from a failed love story.. Sample Report Version. 

  
Well, I thought what a better example to use than myself.

I experienced two life changing, transforming unions over the past few years. The first, was my ‘false twin flame’, twin flame prep, or rather ‘karmic attachment, and the second, was my actual twin flame, the true love of my soul. And guess what, both of them were the life path of 11. 

So I know what you are thinking, that pretty much means they were the same right? And that is why I confused the first with being my actual twin flame instead of a prep? Well, yes, and no. Those belonging to the same life path group may indeed mimick one another in a magnitude of ways, but depending on the individuals actual energetic imprint, and other influencing factors, such as star sign, two souls belonging to the same life path will vary in different ways.

So yes, both of these two men shared similar life path 11 energies, thriving internal worlds, intense intuition, and sensitivity, but they articulated this very differently.

  
My false twin flame was not a horrible man. If he was, I would never have fallen so deeply for him, (despite the fact that he was such an avid manipulator, who’s ego wouldn’t have had things any other way). He was simply consumed, by many things associated with being a wounded healer upon this journey, particularly narcissism.

My false twin was a Capricorn. Known for their seemingly cold, stand-offish and closed nature. Combined with being a life path 11, his thriving intuition and chaotic inner world meant that he developed an extra stern, and hard exterior, as not to let any news slip of his internal drama!

Capricorns, (men especially), have been taught from an early age that outward displays of emotion do not garner affectionate responses, and therefore tend to withhold emotion (viewing this as a statement of power), whilst finding ways to punish those who do open up, and who show a level of emotion that causes them to feel uncomfortable. 

So how was my life path 11 twin flame any different?

  

Well, for one, he was a Scorpio. Now scorpions, men especially, are known for their intensity, emotionally, and romantically. He was the 11 who was open about the chaos that became of his mind, allowing me the open space to reciprocate, opening up about my own experiences with over thinking as a life path 7, and cultivate an open trusting, intimate bond.

Scorpions are very sensitive to rejection, so whilst, my false twin was with holding emotion as a form of power/punishment/dominance, my true twin flame, simply held in his emotion through fear of being rejected, not through malice, not through manipulation, but through a fear of not being enough.

The Capricorn however, in his state of deprivation, had managed to convince himself that not only was he ‘enough’, but in-fact, was ‘too much’, and I should have been lucky to know him – cheeky or what?!
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Me via cindyanneh-bu@hotmail.co.uk to set up an appointment. 

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